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What a brilliant piece Anastasia. You have said things many are afraid to say or as you noted delude themselves. One of my best friend's son died by suicide 6 years ago. She and we could all be so comforted by your words about not trying to solve the mystery of why he chose that path and to accept it is indeed "a question without an answer." Many thanks for sending this out to the world.

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I relate to this on a level that’s impossible to articulate right now. Thank you for saying these things.

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thank you so much for reading, Amanda. Sending warmth your way

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Thank you, I have found this very helpful to read in what is a profoundly confusing and frightening week, much appreciated.

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I am so glad this is helpful for you, Josie. Thanks so much for reading and for being here.

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Very candid and courageous!

Pain sucks, but without it, the good times don't mean anything.

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This is just so spot on, and such critical wisdom, especially right now, when our human tendency to use hatred, blame and scapegoating as an unconscious path towards figuring out "why?" is on full display across the internet.

Thank you for writing everything you write. And... I can't help but wonder if your writing might be an exception to the rule that nothing is all good. 😉

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I'm blushing!

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Like other have mentioned, perfect timing for me to read this as well, but also thanks for sharing your thoughts 🖤

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thank you Amani ❤️❤️

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Beautiful, painful, and deeply resonant. I needed this today.

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You always share such beautiful wisdom 🤍

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A high compliment, Isabelle. Thank you.

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Thank you for this. It's serendipitous, as I think I read another piece about dialectic thinking elsewhere recently. I'm glad that we're trying to honor multiple truths at once, and also honor the truths we may truly never know. And hopefully, do it with as much compassion as we can muster.

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"When I am overcome with pain I remember that pain is inevitable. I can resist it or welcome it. When I welcome pain I am more alive, because I am not turning away from anything." This is some hard won knowledge. I have been working on this, trusting myself to stay embodied and staying with discomfort instead of running and hiding under the sheen of dissociation. Thank you for sharing your perspective, it is comforting to find community with others on the path.

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Thank you so much Andrea. It is a lifelong process, I think, to accept our present experience in all its complexity (and pain). Impossible to do all the time, given our current world and all its distractions, but I always feel such a sense of peace when I can be with it for even just a little while.

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