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I love the words you used to say you will give yourself a gift. Most often when people talk about this concept, they say the will reward themselves. I'm not sure why, the idea of a "gift" seems much more loving than a "reward." Perhaps it's my feeling ng that a reward is given for meeting someone else's expectations. A gift is so much more gentle and unconditional. I find myself hoping that you consider giving yourself a grace period, rather than denying yourself your trip to Europe unless you perform perfectly. 💚

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I am grateful for the way you draw attention to things like this, LC. I hadn't even noticed, but now that I do, I definitely agree with you. I'm not a fan of the "reward." It sounds like capitalist propaganda? Lol. And I never want to do something simply for a reward, you know? But a gift...that's so much more.

And I agree with the grace period. I think I already decided I'll go no matter what, as long as I finish. :)

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I'm so glad you're going to go no matter when you finish! And yes, "reward" definitely sounds like capitalist propaganda.

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Nov 21, 2023Liked by River Selby (they/them)

I have come across quite a few people talking about this idea of enough.

Like you, I never give myself gifts. I am planning to give myself a gift after I finish my manuscript draft.

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YES!!!!

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I absolutely get your wanting to focus on the book and get it right. And then celebrate madly. Sounds like a great plan to me.

I can't wait to read the book!

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Thank you Jeffrey!

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“I will not rush.”

🖤🖤🖤

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It's so important!!! <3

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Nov 24, 2023Liked by River Selby (they/them)

Where was the beautiful picture of the springs taken if you don’t mind me asking?

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Wakulla Springs!

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Nov 27, 2023Liked by River Selby (they/them)

Incredible, thanks for sharing :)

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Nov 22, 2023Liked by River Selby (they/them)

Reading this, I am PROUD OF YOU! 🫶🏼 can’t wait to read the book and to read of your celebratory travels

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Thank you Dia!!

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This is so inspiring to me. It’s giving me lots to think about for 2024!

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Thank you!!!

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