I really appreciated this article. As a mother to grown children, I would like to share this thought -  it’s perfectly fine to state clearly when a parent has crossed a boundary, or it should be. Please know that not all parents are locked inside their worldviews; we are learning how to negotiate changes in the world, and in ourselves, too. Our adult children go a long way in helping us through their own independence and willingness to communicate as honestly and calmly with us as possible. Parents that do not welcome adult conversations with grown children are indeed probably locked in their worldviews.
Your advice makes good sense! Hugs to you and best wishes for the best possible season and year ahead.
Thanks Linda! I definitely agree that not all parents are locked into their worldviews. This is mostly intended for people whose parents don't feel great to be around. This comment is probably super helpful for those who may be dealing with parents who are somewhere in the middle, but my post is generally intended to help folks whose family situations are really difficult and whose parents aren't respectful of their boundaries. Not all parents are willing to learn new ways to negotiate the world and their relationships, unfortunately. I know you know that, and I'm grateful that many parents (and children who are now parents) are more flexible and open when it comes to understanding and accepting their children's needs and boundaries.
It’s not the holidays here and I’ve cut abusive family out of my life, but this is such useful advice. Hugs if you want them, and hope you have a restful few weeks.
I really appreciated this article. As a mother to grown children, I would like to share this thought -  it’s perfectly fine to state clearly when a parent has crossed a boundary, or it should be. Please know that not all parents are locked inside their worldviews; we are learning how to negotiate changes in the world, and in ourselves, too. Our adult children go a long way in helping us through their own independence and willingness to communicate as honestly and calmly with us as possible. Parents that do not welcome adult conversations with grown children are indeed probably locked in their worldviews.
Your advice makes good sense! Hugs to you and best wishes for the best possible season and year ahead.
Thanks Linda! I definitely agree that not all parents are locked into their worldviews. This is mostly intended for people whose parents don't feel great to be around. This comment is probably super helpful for those who may be dealing with parents who are somewhere in the middle, but my post is generally intended to help folks whose family situations are really difficult and whose parents aren't respectful of their boundaries. Not all parents are willing to learn new ways to negotiate the world and their relationships, unfortunately. I know you know that, and I'm grateful that many parents (and children who are now parents) are more flexible and open when it comes to understanding and accepting their children's needs and boundaries.
It’s not the holidays here and I’ve cut abusive family out of my life, but this is such useful advice. Hugs if you want them, and hope you have a restful few weeks.
Great post and great reminders. The Christmas guide to enlightenment. Peacefulness.